cant say for certain but... from my experiences.. the 'guys who couldnt care less' tend to be more agressive (woman like), posses a certain confidence (woman like), and are super relaxed and chill (b/c they have nothing to lose). all these things attract women. after the initial attraction, it comes down to character, what he does for her, maybe how he puts it down, and so on... so even if he 'aint ish' , he may be possesing some of those things that a woman naturally wants to hang on to. also there is a convenience factor.. sometimes we dont know he 'aint ish' till we're knee deep into some stuff and we're already comfortable, so we stay, as that putting up with his mess is easier than 'starting over'. men do the same with women.

Post edited by: somebodyssomekinda, at: 2008/06/06 15:47

My 2 cents...

Men and women play games equally. No gender has a monopoly on game playin. The reason I say that is:

1) Most people are not comfortable with themselves and do not live true to themselves. We live for a mask and that is when starts the game.

2) Society rewards game playin versus being real in realtionships. The "Get Yours" /"Pimpin" / "I don't need" mentality has replaced family, companionship and true friendship. Now I ain't knockin nobody for there hustle, but I will say that it is like business, companies want profit, people want what they want, so the advertising starts for both and the games begin

3) Unfortunately games are played because most people do not know what they want out of a realtionship until they are in one. So games are played as we grow into knowing what works and does not work for us

Don't get into the gender finger pointing because their is enough blame to go around.

Get to know thy self.

Peace and Blessings

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Post edited by: DJ1derful, at: 2008/06/06 16:28

well said dj1!~

I would have to agree with DJ1 (go Dj go Dj ) that men and women play games equally.

I feel that Women play games better because they have more resources to come up with their little schemes, and their girlfriends help them to play those games. I would say the games played sometimes tend to have the opposite effect on the man which could ultimately end the relationship.

Men on the other hand to ME don't care about the lies they tell, they come up with the most unbelievable crap and expect women to fall for it/ which some women do. It's like they got it from the movies and knew it was gonna work crazy!!!. They wanna fit in/brag about what they did to their boy. Be a "playa" and thats not good especially when your getting up there in age.

In the end I'm probably the youngest on PV, but at least I know to " keep it real" I mean I am very vocal, maybe sometime too vocal (I'm working on it). I know what I want and I am not willing to settle for less, if your not doing it right I will let you know *in a nice way .

Honesty is the Best way for US all though if you don't want to be with the person don't lead them on, no need to play games with peoples feeling. Because you know what they say Karma is a Witch/ what goes around comes around. and when you get it it will be 3 times worse.

..... And thats all I gotta say about that